I'm struggling with whether to pursue R3 training in obstetrics and women's health. On one hand, it would be great to match to a program in the same city where Ben is living/working so we could be together and I could get to know the city/hospitals etc. On the other hand, I could probably just go get a job there post-graduation. My hesitancy with the "just get a job" route is that I don't feel prepared - but does anyone? I still have >6 months of residency left and I don't feel prepared to even make the decision but applications are due Oct 15 so I'd better get my ass in gear if I want to apply. Plus, applying would mean revealing to my program director and colleagues that I'm not planning on staying in the city I'm training in (which I would love to do if Ben could only get a job) - which will make a lot of people unhappy. But seriously, Ben and I cannot live apart for any longer!