Sunday, June 01, 2008

Wedding plans

Ben and I went to look at wedding venues yesterday. We found somewhere we like, but it has a 70 person limit. This means that our guest list is going to be limited to people we really want to be there. Which introduces a conundrum: how to invite someone without a date. There are people I would like to invite to our wedding who do not have a steady partner, thus, I would want to invite them without a date so they will be there, without a stranger. How do I do that?

5 comments:

Erin said...

Before you invite them, you will need to consider how many people they know at the wedding. Dates are an assurance that you will know someone at your table and have someone to talk to all night. As long as there are bigger groups of friends that will sit together, you are ok.

Make sure there are a larger group of singles - large enough group of both sexes that they could potentially meet someone. Then make a personal phone call to each single, explain the situation and ask them if they are ok with attending alone. But don't be offended if they say no thanks.

Just my thoughts.

E

Dragonfly said...

Explain that there are a limited number of seats available. And it is Your Wedding (so they have to do what you say :-))

Sage said...

I'll go with Erin on this, explain the situation and ask if they are ok... if enough people don't want to go then you can extend to bring a partner to those left...

Tiny Shrink said...

My wedding was limited by a number of people as well. It was kind of sad for me, because a lot of people couldn't come (we also held our wedding out of town, which limited those who could come), but ultimately it was really special to me for those who did come. I had personally talked with everyone whom I invited about who all might be coming and whether or not a date could come, which seemed to help.

Anonymous said...

If you address the invite to that individual and not indicating you and a guest, etiquette is that only the individual is invited and the invitee should understand that he/she is not privy to bringing a guest. That's the formal Martha Stewart way, if you talk to your invites before hand and let them know, you should be okay. Good Luck